Q&A with Elsie Frost By April Bach Patterson, Allen Bach’s daughter
What have you and Clyde been doing?
We stay very busy and on the go a lot. We go to rodeos and bull ridings when we can.
Can you tell us about your other children?
We have two children other than Lane. A daughter Robin and husband Mark Muggli, who have two sons. Our son Cody and wife Angie have three sons. One grandson, Wyatt Muggli is a calf roper and team roper. He is a senior this year so we try to go to as many of his events as we can. He qualified for the National High School Finals at Rock Springs, Wyoming last year so we went there and then came back by Cheyenne for a couple of days. Wyatt’s brother, Reno is a golfer. He is a sophomore and is on his high school golf team as well as going to some other golf tournaments. Cody’s two older sons, Stetson and Bryan are both grown but not married yet. His younger son Will is a freshman in high school and plays baseball so we go to as many of their events as we can.
Are you asked to speak very often?
I am ask to speak quite often at cowboy churches, youth rodeos or other churches giving Lane’s testimony. Since the movie “8 Seconds” didn’t tell that Lane was a Christian, I like to tell that part of the story and by the way, your Dad had some to do with Lane’s salvation and I appreciate him so much for that . Also, Lane’s mother-in-law, Carolyn Kyle was a great Christian influence in Lane’s life and I love and appreciate her for that. We are also active in our church. I help cook every Wednesday night for 80 or 90 youth and adults. Last weekend we were in Merkel, Tx. to speak at a cowboy church, next weekend we are going to Missouri to speak at three different churches. We have a bible ministry and so we give out the Lane Frost Cowboy Bibles wherever we go.
What lessons learned form motherhood could you pass on to future generations?
Looking back, I don’t think I was as patient with my kids as I should have been. So I would say be patient when possible and listen to what your kids have to say and pick your battles. Sometimes something that seems important at the time, really isn’t. So don’t make a big deal out of it. I do think discipline is important. Most of all, set a good example for them. Kids learn more by what you do than what you say.
What would you say to someone who recently lost a child?
To anyone who has lost a child, I just want to say, don’t think you will ever “get over it”. You are changed forever! Even as a Christian, it is OK to be mad at God! He knows exactly how you feel. When you can’t pray, other people are praying for you. In time you will know it is like the “footprints in the sand”. There was only one set of footprints because God was carrying you. Finally you will grow close to God again and praise His Holy name for always being there. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. You do what feels right for you. Time does help and the pain will ease somewhat and with God’s help, you learn to live with the loss. One of my favorite scriptures is Romans 8: 28 We know that in ALL things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. NIV Also the bible says in 2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 Christ comforts us so that we can comfort those in trouble. NIV
You and Clyde have continued to carry Lane’s legacy on, being kind to others and sharing your faith, tell us about this strength that was found in Lane to treat others so kind?
I really don’t think we can take much credit for the kind of person Lane was, of course we tried to teach our kids respect and to always do the right thing but I think God gave Lane the personality he had that seemed to draw people to him since God knew exactly what was going to happen and knew that he could use Lane. Even the movie that wasn’t exactly what we wanted, God has used it to touch many lives. We knew Lane’s death would have an impact on the rodeo world but because of the movie, so many more people know who Lane is and I get to tell about his salvation and they listen and people have been saved because of Lane’s story. Even Clyde became a Christian after Lane’s death. So Lane being who he was and even his love of bull riding was, I think, a God thing. Hebrews 13: 1-2 says: Keep on loving each other as brothers. Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it. A friend of Lanes told me one time, that when he reads that scripture he thinks – that was Lane.
Tell us about your Faith and what it means to you:
It would be hard to put into words what my faith means to me. I don’t know how I would live day to day without God in my life. I don’t know how people go through life without Him, especially when you have the loss of a child or loved one. Most of all I have the assurance that when I die, I will go to heaven! Some people just don’t realize that in death there are only two choices, heaven or hell! That’s not my opinion, that’s what God says. John 5: 24 (Jesus speaking) I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believe Him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned. NIV